Speaking of Doggy Style
Simon Sheppard, QSyndicate.com
Throughout the animal kingdom, an approach from the rear is more common than
face-to-face fucking. When you get to the primates – apes and the like –
frontal fun becomes more common, but banging from behind is still the norm.
We ultra-sophisticated humans, of course, often fuck from the front.
Belly-to-belly is even nicknamed "the missionary position," implying that
the frontal approach is one of the (maybe dubious) blessings of
But some of us love to get back to four-legged basics. Male/male doggy-style
engagement – anal intercourse with the receptive guy on all fours, the
insertive fella slipping it in from the rear – can have a lot of appeal to
both bottoms and tops. "I find getting screwed when I'm on my back to be
restrictive after a while," says one fuckee. "Hell, I'd have to be an
acrobat to keep my legs in the air for as long as I like to get done."
it's true that the doggy position can be a lot less stressful to hold: The
top doesn't have to do preorgasmic push-ups, and the bottom isn't twisted
into a pretzel. The range of motion is greater, and the more relaxed,
ass-presenting posture of the bottom can mean smoother initial entry. And
without having to deal with his body weight pressing down, a top can control
his stroke more easily.
The pluses can be psychological, as well. "When I'm screwing someone doggy
style, I really feel like the dominant guy," says a dominant guy. "I love to
just grab a guy's hips and pound away. I like to look down and see my
hard-on stroking in and out. And I can easily check to make sure the
condom's still on." Heavier kinksters can even fasten a collar and leash on
a bottomboy and hump him like a hungry...well, bitch.
It's a sure bet that many a bottom, feeling an unseen man plowing into his
hole, feels delightfully submissive. The aforementioned fuckee says, "When I
can't see the guy who's inside me, I feel just like a piece of meat. And
hey, sometimes I really like that feeling. But if I want to be a power
bottom, I can push my butt back and ride a top's shaft hard."
Still, not everyone likes canine-style conjugation. Fans of having their
prostates pounded may well find that the missionary position provides a more
congenial angle for G-spot grinding. "I find I slip out too easy," complains
one top. "And for me, doggy style is just too depersonalized. When I'm
inside a guy, I like to look into his eyes. I like to kiss, and only
giraffes can kiss easily when they screw from the rear. Hell, I like to look
down and see the face of my partner, not his back and shoulders. I guess I'm
just an old-fashioned romantic that way."
Romantic or not, there are enough positions in the queer Kama Sutra to
keep adventurous couples from getting bored. After all, doggy style's not
the only rear-ramming possibility. What we might amphibiously call "froggy
style" involves a bottom keeping his face in the mattress but his butt in
the air. And "spread-eagle" (just to keep the animal metaphors going)
involves a bottom lying face down while the on-top top either straddles his
legs or lies between them. Yep, when it comes to fucking, there's a whole
menagerie of possibilities.
Is doggy style depersonalized? Is rear-entry loving animalistic? Well, who's
to say we can't be a bit bestial in bed? So if you think of yourself as a
randy Rin Tin Tin, if you want to bang like Bowser, then by all means, go
right ahead and howl at the moon. Ah-woooh!
Simon Sheppard is the author of Kinkorama: Dispatches from the Front Lines
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